Showing posts with label Positive Psychology. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Positive Psychology. Show all posts

Friday, July 23, 2021

When "Death" brings meaning!

Sometime back, I read Paul Kalanithi's article in New York Times How Long have I got Left? 

I remember reading his Stanford article "Before I go also on the same day. 

I must have reached through the entangled world wide web. 

I registered somewhere in my mind that I need to read this book. 

Articles were piercing, thoughtful, and show a delicate balance of scholar and crafted writing. 

In the drudgery of daily toil, the book slipped my mind. 

And one fine day, a fellow book club member and voracious reader Neelkanth posted the book cover, signaling he ordered the book. 

Memories kindled, and I, too, ordered it immediately. 

 


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Book arrived sometime.  


I reached home in the evening, opened the packet, and was playing around. 


I looked at the front cover. I looked at the back cover. 


Generally, I refrain from books that don't have indexes and references. Such non-fiction books may be questionable (I feel so). This book doesn't have one. A doubt slipped in mind, is this worth my time! 


Then we had dinner. 


That day, I was attending to my ailing mother. 


I had to attend to her frequently. 


I started going through the book forward. 

I think it was 1100 PM or 1130 PM. 


Through forward, I moved on. 


I was attending mother and going through the book. 


Slowly, I was involved in the book. I continued reading. 


Sitting on the bed, and I was going through pages one after another. 


I did not have a pen or pencil to mark the book—something rare in my book reading.


I continued reading page after page. 


Then sometime at night, I had to remove spectacle. My eyes were moist! 


I cleaned it and continued reading. [Incidentally, today morning, my daughter asked, have you ever cried while reading a book, I told her about the popular Marathi book "Shaymchi Aai" (Shyam's mother). And how everyone cries. I marked in mind; I can say to her about this book too]. 


I continued and completed the book. It was almost night 0230! 


After a long period, I read the book end-to-end in one sitting at a stretch without deciding so! 


That's my experience of reading this book. 


Do you need a review, summary to start reading it now? 


Isn't this enough to pick up and read it! 


Off-course it is not something easy to read too. 


It talks about the broad reading that the author has - a clear indicator of how good reading leads to good writing! His study of literature, philosophy, and the quest to understand DEATH


His quest to understand death and life. The border between meaning and life took him to pick up neurosurgery!


He toiled hard for a decade to reach the pinnacle of neurosurgery, studied neuroscience too.


He has published award-winning papers! 


The bulk of the book is packed with medical jargon. Something similar to The Emperor of Maladies


What is great about the book is his encounter with death with the theory that he studied. A pure sign of scholar! Something similar you find in Victor Frankl's "Man's search of Meaning."


His way of conveying why neurosurgery is not for the weak-hearted. Neurosurgeon deals with the questions of life and death every instant. He deals with the more critical question of whether to allow this person to die or save him! How it separates the doctor's JOB from the doctor's CALLING


It very delicately navigates the meaning of work and life.  

It navigates the questions of identity, the patient's identity, and the doctor's identity. 


The work of Paul Kalanithi of "When breath becomes air" is a pure gem in the league Victor Frankl's "Man's search of meaning"!  


If you want to understand this thread of "meaning" in the literature, you can't ignore this book! 





Sunday, June 14, 2020

Wherever you go, there you are (Book review).

10 min. Quick Read






Quick Summary: 

Poetic musing of the mindfulness teacher. Any curious mind can benefit. Any Meditator can deepen his practice with these ruminations. It is sparkling, fresh, and a tingling journey in the mind of MBSR founder (MBSR: Mindfulness-based stress reduction).

Intended Audience: 

The author says it’s a brief account of mindfulness and its application. It's for anyone who practices any form of meditation or mindfulness. Book doesn’t have detailed instructions. It’s for curious minds and for those who wish to deepen their meditation practice. 

My take on Book: 

Go back and read the title “Wherever you go, there you are”. It's poetic, isn’t it? 
That’s how reading this book feels, like a poem, smooth, free-flowing from the writer's mind to readers. 

This is a 1994 published book, republished in 2005 as the 10th-anniversary edition. It is a best-seller, translated into more than 22 languages, and sold millions of copies. This doesn’t require any more persuasion to read. I found it to be a witty, warm, wise guide. A book we can carry with us, keep on the table, or bed-side and read anytime. It’s inspirational. Short, concise, and to the point. It has small chapters, some as small as half-page. Each focusing on one aspect of mindfulness. You can start from the first page and go on till last, or you can open the book at any point and read. Or go over topics, pick that interests you, and read. It will serve your needs. You can sense from the words - what mindfulness practice of life does to one. 

One more beauty of the book is sections labeled as “Try”. A small action points at the end of small chapters. A reader can try them to see its effects. 

The book is divided into three parts, following the introduction.

  1. Part-I: Present Moment. The section is on deepening one’s practice. 
  2. Part-II: Practice: It covers various aspects of formal practice. 
  3. Part-III: Spirit of mindfulness: Here writer traces its application and his perspectives. 

Part-I 

Mindfulness is defined. It’s paying attention, with purpose, in the present moment, nonjudgmentally. Jon selects each word carefully. You can’t omit, you can’t add. It's complete. Period. 

Mindfulness is a key to look at life which unfolds in moments. He pays his respect to Buddhism from where the practice draws, but clarifies immediately, that it has nothing to do with religion. And anyone can practice irrespective of belief or faith. Jon firmly conveys mindfulness is about “non-doing” but a pathway to mastery. If you can breathe, you can practice. It's so simple, but not easy. It's practice, practice, and more practice. But this practice is not repetition or rehearsal. It is just being present in the moment. No performance, just awareness of the moment. Jon highlights his points with quotes from Nisargdatta Maharaj, Kabir, Thoreau, and many others. 

Then he goes on listing & clarifying qualities that strengthen mindfulness practice. And again highlights - one needs to cultivate these qualities. He talks about patience, non-judging, trust, generosity, voluntary simplicity, concentration, and vision. Each a pearl in itself, looped around mindfulness. 

Part-II

Mindfulness sprouted. Now Jon delves into the specific aspects of practice. He starts with a simple practice of sitting. And tells what a “dignity” in sitting is. How posture changes. He answers very mundane but common questions on how long one should meditate. He tells the practicality of 45 minutes. And immediately clarifying that even 5 minutes is good. Sincerity matters, not the length. He explains various facets of practice like mountain meditation, walking meditation, lake meditation, laying down, and even loving kindness. 

Part-III

Jon concludes in this section. He shows the spirit of mindfulness. He reflects on his personal experience as a parent, as a doctor, his relationship with patients. He talks of routine (and clarifies -there is no routine when one is mindful!) like waking early, cleaning the kitchen, sitting by the fire, And asking everyone to question regularly - what is my job on this earth. He soars the sky with enlightening topics like Ahimsa (non-violence), Karma Yoga, Wholeness, Oneness, Interconnectedness. And ruminates on “is mindfulness spiritual”. These nuggets are worth reading again-n-again. 

Finally, it is a book worth your time. You will love it, cherish it. And will pass it on to others. If you are a meditator - it will deepen your practice. If you aren’t, it will inspire you to try out. This book is going to have a permanent place in my bookshelf. 

Enchanting Quotes

  • But waking up is ultimately something that each one of us can only do for ourselves. When it comes down to it, wherever you go, there you are.  
  • Meditation is the only intentional, systematic human activity which at the bottom is about not trying to improve yourself or get anywhere else, but simply to realize where you already are.
  • Mindfulness practice means that we commit fully in each moment to being present. There is no “performance.” There is just this moment. We are not trying to improve or to get anywhere else. We are not even running after special insights or visions
  • You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf. (Swami Satchitananda cited in the book)
  • Thinking you are unable to meditate is a little like thinking you are unable to breathe or to concentrate or relax. Pretty much everybody can breathe easily. And under the right circumstances, pretty much anybody can concentrate, anybody can relax.
  • Voluntary simplicity means going fewer places in one day rather than more, seeing less so I can see more, doing less so I can do more, acquiring less so I can have more. It all ties in.
  • Making a commitment to yourself to get up earlier than you otherwise might. Just doing it changes your life. Let that time, whatever its length, be a time of being, a time for intentional wakefulness. You don’t want to fill this time with anything other than awareness.
  • Mindfulness practice is simply the ongoing discovery of the thread of interconnectedness. ..... It’s more like we become conscious of a connectedness that has been here all the time.

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Saturday, April 4, 2020

How Vivekananda continues to Inspire!


5 Minute Quick Read. 


["I only tell you this, that whoever reads this letter will imbibe my spirit! "
                                                                                                      - Swami Vivekananda" ]


Vivekananda is an inspiring personality. 

He enthralled the audience that listened to him at Chicago in 1893. He inspired hundreds after his return and these lectures are outlined in “Lectures from Colombo to Almora”. His contemporaries like Bal Gangadhar Tilak, Rabindranath Tagore, Sri Aurobindo, and even Industrialist Jamshetji Tata expressed how he was influential. Mahatma Gandhi in Feb, 1921 at Belur, even said that, 

 I ask you, young men, not to go away empty-handed without imbibing something  of the spirit of the place where Swami Vivekananda lived and died”. 

His inspiration continues even to this date. I have at least half-dozen close friends who were inspired by his words, writings and are living their life as Monks or are serving full time, the poor and needy. They are walking the path shown by him. There are enumerable examples of how he continues to inspire. For instance, a famous story about Anna Hazare, social activist goes, that he was about to commit suicide and then read the works of Swamiji. It inspired him to pick up rural development and continues to inspire to serve India. 

I am always amused by the inspirational power of Swamiji’s words and writings. One can understand the influence on his contemporaries due to direct contact, but how come he continues to inspire people even today? 


Recently I came across a behavioral study about the inspiring power of words. Researchers used Poetry as a channel for inspiration. A group wrote Poetry and tested for their level of inspiration. Another group read this poetry and commented on various parameters. Total 36, 020 data points were collected.  


Researchers concluded that inspired writers were able to inspire average readers. Readers found poems as more sublime, insightful when writers were more inspired. Surprisingly efforts put into writing or originality of writing weren’t having any effect on the reader. And the only connection between reader and writers were poem!  


This kind of explains how Vivekananda continues to inspire. He was highly inspired person. He spoke about his Guru Sri Ramkrishna as, 

 ” My teacher, my master, my hero, my ideal, my God in life “. 
He mentioned at one point, 

“It is true I believe Ramakrishna Paramahamsa to have been inspired. But then I am myself inspired also. And you are inspired. And your disciples will be; and theirs after them; and so on, to the end of time! “   

What he wrote was from the deep truth he experienced. His expressions were just an outcome of his inner pure, inspired state of being. And hence his writings are more than the words, they are medium, the vehicle that continues to inspire and will continue to inspire us








https://advaitaashrama.org/cw/content.php  Complete Works of Swami Vivekananda.